- Courtney E Martin
The only way to realize how beautiful you are is to love yourself, flaws and all. We girls are the most self-critical creatures by nature, fixated on the ring of flab encircling our waits, whatever bit of cellulite, every line, and every spot. It comes to a point where we often forget how beautiful we are. Embracing our imperfections empowers us and radiates confidence -- that invisible yet powerful energy that draws attention. Stop trying to pursue those unrealistic bodies that society worships 'cause there aren't any fixed mould you have to fit in to be beautiful. Be your own kind of beautiful instead of a cookie cutter!
"When a woman puts on a heel, she has a different posture, a different attitude. She really stands up and has a consciousness of her body."
- Christian Louboutin
Most girls shy away from high heels 'cause they leave us sore, blistered, and limping. While a pair of flats can be the easy painless way out, it can dull our ensembles and make them appear flat (all pun intended). Heels not only elevate women physically, but also emotionally. That extra bit of height gives you that added boost of confidence. Moreover, heels seem to have that captivating ability to make heads turn by transforming your walk into a strut that's ever so sexy and alluring. So go get a right pair that tailors to your feet shape, and do heed Victoria Beckham's advice -- Wear big high heels, but do practice walking. Go perfect you wiggle I'd say!
"You will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too edgy. If you round your edges, you lose your edge. Apologise for mistakes. Apologise for unintentionally hurting someone -- profusely. But don't apologise for being who you are."
- Danielle LaPorte
Haters gonna hate and there's always one in every nook and cranny. There's nothing wrong with you, how you're shaped or what you choose to wear; haters are the ones with the problem. They project their own insecurities on you to make them feel better about themselves. Ignore them 'cause buying into their crap is a waste of time. And remember, those who try to bring you down, are definitely below you. So whether it's your assets or flaws, wear them unapologetically!
"A strong woman accepts both compliments and criticism graciously, knowing that it takes both sunshine and rain for a flower to grow."
- Mandy Hale
We would like to believe that the whole "women are bad in accepting compliments" notion is just a stereotype except, (as much as I hate to admit) it's the truth. More often than not, we fluster when we get an honest and sincere "you look amazing". What's worse is reciprocating with self-loathing rebuttals or brushing them off like they were nothing. We need to stop undermining ourselves. Instead, graciously accept compliments and bask in the moment.
"There is a special place in hell for women who do not help other women."
- Madeleine Albright
You can cloth yourself in expensive labels, but clothing yourself with a good character appeals more. A truly strong and confident woman is one who helps build other women uo rather than tear them down. Rise above and set yourself apart by avoiding catfights and petty gossips. Surround yourself with women who inspire and empower you, and do the same for other women. Do what you want done to you.
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